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Helping Teachers Find the Joy in Teaching with Kim Strobel, ep. 272

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Many instructional coaches face low morale and resistance from teachers.

So how can coaches help teachers reignite the spark of happiness and fulfillment in teaching in the midst of growing to-do lists and ever-rising demands? Tune in to this episode to find out!

Today, I’m joined by internationally known motivational speaker, educator, and author Kim Strobel for an inspiring conversation about helping teachers find the joy in teaching. Kim shares her personal story along with eye-opening research on happiness, well-being, and the importance of prioritizing joy. We examine why happiness matters so much for educators and how small habits can increase joy.

Kim explains what we’ve gotten wrong about the formula for success. Hint: It’s not working harder! She offers strategies for coaches to help teachers reconnect with their joy and build habits that support happiness, even with growing to-do lists and rising expectations.

The message from Kim in this episode is not your usual “try harder” advice! It’s real talk, rooted in research, and accessible for anyone supporting teachers right now. Whether you’re managing resistant teachers or just need a boost yourself, you’ll leave with actionable practices, plus ideas for weaving happiness habits into coaching cycles and PLC meetings.

If you’re ready to make joy a priority for yourself and your teachers, listen to the full episode now! The highlights are below!

What The Happiness Research Tells Us and Why It Matters

According to the research, if your happiness were a pie chart:

50% of your long-term happiness is genetic.

10% is determined by life’s external circumstances (i.e., class size, your commute, or if the copier is broken yet again).

40% is in YOUR CONTROL

What these numbers mean is that external life circumstances, things like your job, test scores, and income, account for very little of your overall joy. While genetics plays a big role, a full 40% of your happiness is within your control. These are your daily thoughts, day-to-day actions, and habits.

It’s easy to believe that if circumstances in our lives were different, we’d be happier. However, Kim reminds us that even in hard times, we can choose to cultivate more joy through our thoughts, behaviors, and everyday habits. That’s powerful news for educators overwhelmed by never-ending tasks and shifting demands. 

Rethinking Happiness: The Real Formula for Success

Many of us grew up believing that happiness comes after we check all the boxes: good grades, a top college, a high-paying job, the perfect home, the picture-perfect family.

But as Kim explains, 30 years of positive psychology research tells us the opposite is true. It’s actually happiness that drives success, not the other way around.

When we tie happiness to achievements, we’re always chasing, constantly moving the bar. But when we prioritize our well-being and joy first, every other part of our lives gets better.

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The Coaches Toolkit: Top 5 Happiness Habits

Now that we know what the research says, how can instructional coaches help teachers build happiness habits that stick?

During the conversation, Kim shares the top five happiness habits that make the biggest impact on the 40% we control. She briefly explains each and encourages us to start by adopting one. If you want to learn more about them, you can grab Kim’s book, Teach Happy: Small Steps to Big Joy. You can also download a free study guide on her website that walks you through each chapter.

1️⃣ Practice Gratitude Daily

Create a simple two-minute gratitude journaling routine. Write down three specific things you’re thankful for each day. This simple practice rewires your brain for positivity. Get Kim’s free gratitude prompt and tracker on her website.

2️⃣ Move Your Body

Even a small amount of exercise can make a big difference in your mood and reduce stress.

3️⃣ Meditation

Try two minutes of deep, mindful breathing, which can rewire your brain and increase joy.

4️⃣ Random Acts of Kindness

Shower kindness on teachers. Kim recommends starting team meetings with a genuine compliment or note of appreciation.

5️⃣ Social Connections

Invest time in nurturing relationships.

Take small, consistent steps, starting with just one that resonates. When you practice these habits yourself and share your progress (and mistakes), teachers will follow your lead. Kim stacked these new habits into her existing routine to make sure they’d stick.

Helping Teachers Find the Joy in Teaching

My conversation with Kim added a little happiness jolt into my day! I loved learning about what the research tells us and the things we can do to add more joy to our lives.

I really appreciate Kim being vulnerable about her own journey and how happiness research helped her change her perspective. Her message was both empowering and practical. It really got me thinking about how I approach my work and support teachers.

Listen to the full episode to learn more about helping teachers find the joy in teaching!

Topics and Questions Discussed in Episode 272 – Helping Teachers Find the Joy in Teaching with Kim Strobel

  • Helping teachers find the joy in teaching
  • Kim’s personal journey into the research around happiness and well-being
  • The science of happiness: What the research tells us and why it matters for educators, including teachers, coaches, and administrators
  • The real formula for happiness and success 
  • What instructional coaches can do to support teacher happiness
  • Five simple happiness habits coaches can introduce to teachers in meetings and one-on-one conversations
  • The power of a daily gratitude practice
  • Supporting teachers without the toxic positivity trap

About Kim Strobel
Kim Strobel is an internationally known motivational speaker, educator, and author of Teach Happy: Small Steps to Big Joy. She inspires audiences worldwide to reclaim their joy, lead with purpose, and create sustainable well-being.

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Turning Insight Into Action: Practical Steps You Can Take After Listening

Here are simple actions you can take today:

1️⃣ Try a Happiness Habit

Pick one happiness habit and commit to modeling it this week. Bonus points if you invite a teacher to do it with you!

Here’s an easy idea: Show gratitude by praising a teacher during a PLC meeting or in a newsletter you send to staff this week.

2️⃣ Listen to Episode 182 – Building Teacher Morale When Systemic Changes Are Needed with Suzanne Dailey

Check out Episode 182 “Building Teacher Morale When Systemic Changes Are Needed with Suzanne Dailey“. You’ll get tips for building teacher morale and learn how small mindset shifts can lead to big changes.

3️⃣ Join the Instructional Coaching Club

The Instructional Coaching Club is an online membership designed to help instructional coaches improve instruction at their schools. It gives coaches the tools to go out and do it.

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Chrissy Beltran [00:00:06]:

Hey, coach. This week on instructional coaching with miss b, we are continuing our deep dive into coaching culture and morale. I am really excited to introduce my new guest. My guest is Kim Strobel, and we’re talKim Strobelg about how to help teachers find the joy in teaching. Now if you have teachers who close the door when you walk by, openly complain during PLC meetings, or flat out refuse to work with you, You are in a tough spot, but it’s a common spot to be in for coaches. Coaches have had to figure out how to reach teachers who are resistant to coaching and change since the first coach came to be. So let me help you. Head to buzzing with missb.com/resistance and get the five day coaching resistant teachers challenge sent right to your inbox. It’s a short, short video each day with a workbook to help you work through the challenge and change your coaching relationship. I know you’re gonna love it. My guest today is Kim Strobel. Kim is an internationally known motivational speaker, educator, and author of Teach Happy Small Steps to Big Joy. She inspires audiences worldwide to reclaim their joy, lead with purpose, and create sustainable well-being. And I first saw Kim whenever she did one of the Simply Coaching conferences, from Nicole Turner, and I just really loved her her her speaKim Strobelg. And so I’m super excited to share her with you today. So let’s welcome her. So welcome to the podcast, Kim, and thank you so much for being here today.

Kim Strobel [00:01:27]:

Thank you, Chrissy. I’m excited.

Chrissy Beltran [00:01:29]:

I would love to hear a little bit about how you got into research around happiness and well-being.

Kim Strobel [00:01:35]:

Yeah. Well, I’m a former fourth grade teacher, and then I was an instructional coach literacy coordinator. And then from there, I was a curriculum director. But all along the way, I’ve also had this deep desire since I was in my early twenties to be in the personal development field. Kim Strobeld of really came as a result of my own trauma and struggles that I was enduring in life. I went through a really dark period where I suffered with extreme panic disorder and agoraphobia. And so I was looKim Strobelg for tools to help me retrain my brain and work on the stuff on the inside of myself. And so I came across the personal development field and became an avid student of reading everything I can get my hands on when it comes to learning how to work on myself to get the outer results. And then about fifteen years ago, I stumbled upon Sean Acor’s research and Sonya Lubomisky, and it just blew my mind around the topic of happiness and well-being and how much of it was really within our personal agency and our personal power because I had spent a lot of time in my life blaming specific circumstances, situations, and people for the I I really was living in that victim mentality of thinKim Strobelg these situations were robbing me of my happiness. And so when I started to download this new information and actually see that I had some personal agency in my life, it started to really change my life in a big way.

Chrissy Beltran [00:03:13]:

That’s amazing because you were able to take something that you that you read about and use it to actually change the thought processes that were keeping you stuck. And your thinKim Strobelg is, like, the most powerful thing to change, but those habits are the hardest thing to change because we’ve had them you know, you’ve had them for decades, you know, have this when we’re adults.

Kim Strobel [00:03:32]:

Yeah. And I think, like, it’s you know, thoughts happen so quickly that it’s sometimes really hard to get a hold of those. But what I have found is the habits in and of themselves are actually simple and easy. It’s learning how to cultivate them, and then they start to do the rewiring sort of of the brain chemistry for you. Mhmm.

Chrissy Beltran [00:03:55]:

Okay. So let’s dig into what this looks like. What is the happiness research, and why is it especially important to educators, including teachers, coaches, and administrators?

Kim Strobel [00:04:04]:

Yeah. You know, I obviously, being a teacher, my heart is in that space because I do feel the cognitive demand that they’re under and the complexities of the student challenges. And I call a spade a spade, which is your paycheck just doesn’t reflect what you bring to the job. Mhmm. But I never wanna get stuck in that because then we’re getting stuck in a circumstance. Right? We’re getting stuck in something that we can’t necessarily change. And so the happiness research pulls at my heart for them specifically. But to be honest with you, Chrissy, I’ve keynoted for the FBI and for banks and for because this research is applicable to everyone. But, specifically, I feel like teachers are feeling just the heaviness and the fact that, they very easily slip into letting it steal from the other really important parts of their lives, like their parenting life and their family life and their health and physical fitness life and their own social and emotional well-being piece because the pressure feels so big that it doesn’t feel like there’s anything else we can do. And so when I tell you the happiness research, it’s gonna Kim Strobelda blow your mind, to be honest. What it says is that we all have a set baseline happiness level. So maybe my set baseline is here, Chrissy, and yours is a little bit higher. And what this means is good things and bad things will happen to you and I in our lives, and we will go up and down. But we always come back to our baseline. It might take two hours to come back to baseline. It might take two days, two weeks, two months, but we Kim Strobelda come back to this baseline. And so then people say, well, why does Chrissy have a higher baseline than Kim?

Chrissy Beltran [00:05:52]:

Mhmm.

Kim Strobel [00:05:53]:

And so I tell people, if you picture your happiness as a pie chart, what we know is that 50% of your long term happiness is genetic. And, Chrissy, when I stand on a stage with thousands of people in the crowd and I say this, I giggle because 80% of the heads will drop, and I will hear all these little murmurings like, oh my gosh. 50%. I’m so screwed. And it’s like it’s true though. There’s like a genetic disposition to body composition

Chrissy Beltran [00:06:30]:

to Absolutely. Yeah.

Kim Strobel [00:06:32]:

And to brain chemistry. So yeah. I always say that, like, I was born to a dad who is naturally happy. He really doesn’t let anything get to him. And then I was born to a super loving, nurturing mom, but her brain is wired towards negativity. So it just Right. The first thing that she grabs at. And so I’m always like, oh, dear. Please. I hope I have more of my dad.

Chrissy Beltran [00:06:53]:

Right. Exactly. Right? I think we can all relate to that. Yeah. Yeah. And I

Kim Strobel [00:06:59]:

know that that sounds like a huge portion of our happiness, but I always tell people just stay with me and don’t lose hope.

Chrissy Beltran [00:07:06]:

Mhmm. Yeah. 50% is not even it’s not even Yeah. There’s hope. There’s hope.

Kim Strobel [00:07:11]:

Right? Else. Yeah. Now where I think it’s very shocKim Strobelg, which just blew my mind, and it was the download and the education and the information that my brain needed to to start to see my perception of the world differently. And that was the research proves over and over we can take every external circumstance you’ve ever had throughout your whole life. So what Kim Strobeld of home were you raised in? Were your parents married, single, divorced? Did they have money? Did they not? Were you popular? Were you bullied? Were you academically intelligent? Were you, in your adulthood? You know, like, what Kim Strobeld of career do you have? What Kim Strobeld of money do you make? What Kim Strobeld of home do you live in? Every external circumstance can be thrown into this pie, and those external circumstances only account for about 10%, Chrissy, of your long term happiness. Interesting. But if you’re like Kim Strobel, you will let some parents, some students, some people, and some experiences still weigh more than 10%

Chrissy Beltran [00:08:22]:

Mhmm.

Kim Strobel [00:08:22]:

For far too long. Mhmm. And I always tell people, this does not mean and I wanna make sure we’re being careful too. Like, if you have a medical diagnosis of depression or anxiety, we are not saying, oh, that can only rob you. It should only rob that’s a medical biochemistry many times condition. Or if you’re dealing with a significant loss or illness right now, we understand. But what this is looKim Strobelg at is long term happiness, the overall picture. And so for me, it really opened my eyes up to see, really? Like, how many times have I said, oh, such and such must have a great life. You know? They never went through a divorce. They live in this beautiful home. They never have to worry about money. You know, whatever it is. Like, we’ve always done that. And I was like, okay. I’ve had some really hard things in my life and I’ve had some things that people have done to me that have felt very unjust and, wow, I’m choosing I’m choosing to hold on to those things and I’m the one who is letting it rob me of my happiness and my well-being.

Chrissy Beltran [00:09:35]:

Mhmm. Yeah. Yeah. Is the other 40%, like, your reaction to these things and the way that we choose to perceive the things that happen to us.

Kim Strobel [00:09:45]:

So so then I got completely fired up because I was like, what’s the other 40%? Yeah. I’m speculating. Yeah. So if 50% is genetics and 50% is external circumstances, Every human has the ability to increase their happiness levels by up to 40%, and that’s the part that is within our control. Mhmm. And it has to do with the thoughts we’re thinKim Strobelg, the actions we’re taKim Strobelg, and the behaviors or the habits that we’ve cultivated in our lives. And so when I wrote, teach happy small steps to big joy, that’s the 40%. These are the happiness habits that will retrain your brain and allows you regardless of situation, circumstances, and it allows you to, what I call, become a happiness practitioner in your life,

Chrissy Beltran [00:10:42]:

you

Kim Strobel [00:10:42]:

know, to know and and, you know, we gotta step this even back, Chrissy, because in women in particular, like, when I ask a crowd if I’m keynoting, like, at a back to school event, I’ll say, how many of you believe that you are deserving of happiness? And everybody’s hand goes up. And then I say, put your hand down if you struggle to prioritize your own happiness and well-being. And almost every hand goes down. I say put your hand down if everybody else’s needs come before yours. And I say, so you you tell me you think you deserve happiness, but you are not holding an inner core belief that supports that. And so things like especially women have been raised by generations of well intentioned mothers and grandmothers, but the the code or the blueprint was that you’re selfish if you think of yourself at times before your kids or your family, that you’re supposed to take care of everybody else’s needs before your own. And if there’s anything left over at the end of the day, you get it. Right. And there’s never not anything left. And so what I really have to work on is helping people understand that you have to extract those beliefs and first start carrying a blueprint that knows that you are allowed to prioritize your happiness. And when you do, the research says that when you prioritize your happiness, that is the very thing that fuels the success in every area of your life. If you want a better marriage, prioritize your happiness. If you want better success in your career, prioritize your happiness. If you want more abundance and prosperity, prioritize your happiness first. And so it’s the very lever that pulls all the other levers, but we’ve been trained on a revert reverse formula. Our formula for happiness has been work really hard, get a good job, give it all you’ve got, make the good money, get the good house, get the 2.5 kids. Okay. Now I’m considered a successful person in life. And because of that, now I’ve achieved happiness when in fact, it’s backward.

Chrissy Beltran [00:12:55]:

Mhmm. Yeah. You’re trying to check all the boxes thinKim Strobelg the checked boxes make you happy.

Kim Strobel [00:13:01]:

Yes.

Chrissy Beltran [00:13:02]:

But yeah. And my mom always has told me that. My mom didn’t have all the boxes checked all the time, but she used to say all the time, you choose happiness. You have to make yourself happy. And she didn’t like, she wasn’t great about putting herself first ever, but she but she did teach me that one thing. Their circumstances are your circumstances. Your life is things are gonna happen. You have to choose to be happy, and I feel like that has been something I you know, after having kids and, you know, I was not at my best. And after, you know, I mean, I you know? You’re just not yourself for a while. I certainly wasn’t. I feel like after each kid, it took me about two years to get back to my normal self, to feel like myself. And, and I but I kept telling myself, like, I I have to choose to be happy here. These are the circumstances, and there’s a lot of good things that are happening. And I have to, like, pay attention to those because I it’s very easy for me to land looKim Strobelg at the negative. I can quickly point out the problems. It’s easy for me to see those things. You know?

Kim Strobel [00:13:54]:

Yep. Yep. Me too.

Chrissy Beltran [00:13:56]:

Yeah. So the formula for success is something that you shared about. So you wanna share a little bit about that with us?

Kim Strobel [00:14:02]:

Yeah. That’s Kim Strobeld of like so, again, we’ve been just trained, and we do this with our kids. Like, okay. Like, you gotta get really good grades. We want you to get into a really good school. Because if you get into a really good school, then, you know, you’re building your resume. And the number one thing is, like, we need you to get a really good job. We need you to compete and be at the top of that class so that you can get the good internship. You can get the good job. You can make the good money. You can get the nice cars. You can bid build a nice house and, like, this is your road to success. And so, again, what we’ve learned from the last probably thirty years of positive psychology research is it’s actually those people most of the time most of the time that learn to prioritize their happiness and well-being first. They’re the ones that drive the success, not the the success does not drive the happiness. Right. Happiness is the very thing that drives the success. Mhmm. Yeah. I think that part of that comes through. Like, the reason that being is when we’re checKim Strobelg all the boxes, what happens is because we’re humans, we have this thing called hedonic adaptation. And so hedonic adaptation, Chrissy, is, like, when you’re freezing and it’s so cold outside and you come in and you’re like, I’m gonna sit by the fire. And you sit by the fire and it starts to warm your body and it just feels so good. And then a few minutes later, you’re like, oh, okay. Now it doesn’t feel so great, so I’m done with that. So we have this adaptability. We adapt quickly. And so it’s wonderful. I always tell people, you wanna have goals in your life. There’s nothing wrong with having goals. Like, I live in a big beautiful home. I, you know, have big goals for how we wanna show up and serve my people in the world, But the problem lies is when we tie the our happiness to the achievement of that goal. So if Chrissy says, oh, well, I’ll be happy when

Chrissy Beltran [00:15:51]:

Mhmm.

Kim Strobel [00:15:51]:

I lose the weight. I’ll be happy when we make 6 figures. I’ll be happy when the kids are grown. I’ll be happy when I can retire. We’re constantly delaying our happiness in the now, and we’re tying it to the achievement of a goal. And the reason that doesn’t work is as soon as we hit the goal, as soon as Kim’s trouble hits her goal of losing 10 pounds, I’m like, awesome. I did it. And then I’m like, oh, but I really need five more. Yeah. I just and so we constantly recalibrate what what the goal is for happiness. We immediately change it, and we set a new goal Mhmm. Instead of being satisfied with the previous one.

Chrissy Beltran [00:16:30]:

So

Kim Strobel [00:16:30]:

that’s why we can’t count on those things for sustaining happiness because because they’re not longevity things. They’re not going to last. I’m gonna get this beautiful home or I’m gonna make all this money or I’m gonna find the perfect partner or I’m gonna lose my 20 pounds I need to lose. And why am I still not gonna be satisfied? Because it’s gonna take more now. And, again, there’s nothing wrong with those things. There’s nothing wrong with having beautiful things in your life. It’s just when you tie the achieve I mean, I know the research, Christy, and I am still completely convinced that if I could get a beach home, I’d be happier.

Chrissy Beltran [00:17:09]:

I mean, you’d probably be really happy at the beach home.

Kim Strobel [00:17:12]:

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And if it buys me freedom and relaxation, then that might count. Right? I

Chrissy Beltran [00:17:18]:

think so. I’m already thinKim Strobelg about it, Chrissy. We’re thinKim Strobelg about it. I’m already thinKim Strobelg about the conversation I’m gonna have with my best friend when I call her today. So I’m gonna tell her about all this, and I’m super excited, to share this with her. So whenever we think about the role of instructional coaches at schools, you know, we we work with teachers who are bringing in I mean, it’s so much, the morale is low. They’re bringing in so many experiences they’ve had with kids that day and parents, and then the constant just dumping on of more expectations and more tasks that don’t feel fruitful. And so coaches are like, oh, let’s sit down and look at data. And the teachers are like, I hate this, And they’re just not excited about doing the things that coaches are asKim Strobelg them to do many times. So what are some things that coaches can do or maybe things they can build into, you know, meetings or individual work with teachers that can help build teachers build habits around happiness?

Kim Strobel [00:18:15]:

Yeah. I mean, as an instructional coach, I think it’s a hard spot to be in sometimes because, let’s be honest, like, you know, you are dealing a lot of times with teachers who are like, well, the last thing I want you I want some so called expert when you’re gonna come in and show me what to do. I mean, there is just that human nature to feel like we’re being attacked. And I remember when I was in that role, I mean, I just had some people that just reared up as soon as they even heard, like, oh, Kim’s now the literacy coach. You know? Oh, who is she to come in and Yeah. Tell us what we’re gonna do? And so and then you’re right. Like, they’re just they come to the meetings and understandably so. I mean, a kid just threw a trash can across the room. Another one bit another kid and, you know. And so what I tell people is again, it’s it’s going back to the personal agency that we have in our life. And so there’s a top five happiness habits, and I’m just gonna ask you to adopt one of them. Okay? One of them right now. And if you wanna know more about them, you can go to my book, which, by the way, on the website, strobleeducation.com, there’s a little tab at the top that says teach happy book, and there’s a free downloadable study guide. And it actually walks people chapter by chapter with reflection questions because we also get in the way of our happiness. And so Mhmm. The top five, and I’m not gonna detail all of them, but I wanna tell you the top five that are gonna make the biggest difference on that 40%. So one is the practice of gratitude, and I’ll go in deeply with that one in a little bit. The second one, Chrissy, is move your body. I mean, every book I’m reading from how to age well to how to feel good, for how to fight depression, how to deal with stress and quarters. It’s all move your body. Move your body. Move your body thirty minutes a day. And I know teachers who are saying, you know what, Kim? I got four kids of my own at time at home. We got 26 practices in a week. I barely have time to do you know? But then what I tell them, Chrissy, is I say, look. Let’s get out your phone and and and let’s look at settings and let’s look at screen time and let’s look at how much screen time you’re having on your phone each day. Because if you’re like Kim’s trouble, next thing you know, you’ve had fifty five minutes on Facebook, Instagram, and, you know

Chrissy Beltran [00:20:28]:

Mhmm.

Kim Strobel [00:20:28]:

LinkedIn. And I’m not saying in that to shame anybody, but I’m saying, like, sometimes when I catch myself going down that rabbit hole, I’m like, oh. So I’ve chosen fifty six minutes over here to play on my socials, which is actually draining me rather than and taKim Strobelg a thirty minute walk or going down in my basement and doing a beach body workout that’s actually gonna fuel me. Mhmm.

Chrissy Beltran [00:20:51]:

And

Kim Strobel [00:20:51]:

so we’re always maKim Strobelg choices. And sometimes we act like we don’t have time, but we just don’t know how to prioritize the things that are gonna make the biggest difference. So that’s one of them, exercise. The third one is meditation, and it can just be two minutes a day of breathing. The third one is random acts of Kim Strobeldness. So it’s small little things. So, like, when I was a coach, when we would, like, have the data meetings, I would just start out by bestowing a Kim Strobeldness. Like, you know, hey, Michelle. I walked into your classroom this week and, like, I have no idea. It’s, like, 27 kids that would be, like, a a herd of cats and somehow you have them all completely engaged in lessons. Like, that’s just a little Kim Strobeldness that you’ve been bestowed on somebody that changes the whole atmosphere of the room. So, like, I would really encourage your coaches to when they go into those meetings to make sure they’re gonna point out one positive thing right out of the gate. Okay. And then the fifth one is the social connections. So it’s the relationships that we’re nurturing in our lives. It’s the friendships, the people in our school. Do we have bonds with them? Are we forming good relationships? Do we have a good support system? But I wanna deeply explain the first one with you, and it’s the practice of gratitude because it’s a two minute daily habit. And I tell people that it sounds so simple, but it is a one hundred percent game changer in your life because it rewires your brain and it creates a new neurofeedback loop. And so what we know is that humans have about 70,000 thoughts a day. Now if you’re a stressed human, you might be having upwards of a 120,000 thoughts a day. But let’s just stick with the 70,000 that you’re having. What we know is if you’re an average human, 80% of your thoughts in a day’s time are negative. Sheesh. I know. That means when you and I put our Average. Average, which most of us are average. And so that means when we put our head on the pillow at night, we’ve had 56,000 negative thoughts, Chrissy.

Chrissy Beltran [00:22:56]:

Yeah. I guess is that just like biological survival type stuff? That’s exactly what it is. Okay. So

Kim Strobel [00:23:01]:

we have an amygdala, and back in caveman and cavewoman times, the amygdala scanned for danger. And it’s 2026, and we still have an amygdala, and it’s still scanning for danger. Mhmm. Okay. What’s even crazier is of the 80% of thoughts that are negative, 95% of the 80 are the exact same thoughts you had before, the day before. You’re having the same thoughts. You’re complaining in your head and you’re not even aware of them. Like, for women in particular, Chrissy, I cannot tell you by the time they’ve woken up within the first hour, if we could monitor how many subconscious because it’s not in their awareness. They’re doing it so fast. How many subconscious thoughts they’ve had about how bad they look within the first hour

Chrissy Beltran [00:23:46]:

of Wow.

Kim Strobel [00:23:47]:

That’s awful. Women particular. Right? We get in the front of the mirror and we’re like, oh my god. My face looks puffy. Oh my gosh. I don’t know what you know, but, like, it’s just it’s we’re scanning the body. Today, I was running and I looked down at my tights on my legs and I was like, oh my god. What’s going on? Those tights, like, look like big fat, you know, things on my legs. Like, what’s going on with my legs? I was criticizing my body just immediately. You know? So here’s what I tell people. The research is very clear that we can rewire these defaults that your brain’s going down every single day. And the way we do it is by writing down three different things that we’re thankful for every single day. Mhmm. So, Chrissy, I have a favorite Amazon journal that I love. I just love the paper. I love the lines. I’ll give you the link to it. I’ll email it over if your people want it. Right. And I put the date, February 9, which is the date we’re recording this, 2026. I write the words, I am thankful dot dot dot because those are three of the most powerful words in the universe. They hold within them an energetic blueprint.

Chrissy Beltran [00:24:51]:

Mhmm.

Kim Strobel [00:24:52]:

And then you have to write three different things for the first twenty one days or so. And somewhere between days twenty one 30, all of a sudden, your brain starts to take a new neurofeedback loop. It starts to go in a more positive direction. And what this means is that more good than bad is now popping on your radar. So my only other rule for this, Chrissy, is you have to be specific. Don’t write number one, my health. Number two, my family. Number three, my dogs. Those are two generic. I want you to write, number one, I’m thankful that my legs carried me five miles today on my run. Mhmm. Number two, I’m thankful that my husband woke up and gave me the best hug this morning. Number three, I love that my dogs love to lay on my lap in the mornings like they are a heavy blanket. You know, like, you have to be specific with it. But I tell people decide when that’s gonna happen for you. For me, I batch my happiness habits. So, like, right out of the gate, I wake up, I meditate, I go fix my protein shake and my, supplement shake because, you know, like yesterday, I ate four Valentine cookies and two brownies. I mean, you know? And then I do my gratitude journal, then I do my affirmations, then I do my exercise. So I batch my happiness habits. But, like, you just have to decide, is it gonna happen as soon as you wake up? And if so, do you need to put your gratitude journal on your kitchen counter as a visual cue? Or is it gonna happen when you go to bed at night? That’s a great time to do your gratitudes, you know. You see the journal on your nightstand and that’s a visual cue. Oh, I need to do this. It takes two minutes a day. I used to run a high end women’s coaching program. I taught them so many skills. And over and over, Chrissy, they would always say the one thing that changed their life was the gratitude practice. And and I’m gonna put a link in the chat box, Chrissy, because I have a free gratitude prompt and tracker on my website that your people can download. And I love especially the five prompts because it’s it shows you where to start looKim Strobelg for gratitude in your life. So I’ll actually send that over in the email with the, with the other items.

Chrissy Beltran [00:27:06]:

Yeah. That’s great. We’ll put in the show notes for sure.

Kim Strobel [00:27:08]:

Okay. Sounds great. Yeah. So it’s a good little happiness habit. It’s gonna work on that 40%. It’s gonna help get your brain to positive more than negative, neutral, and stressed. And, Chrissy, here’s why we have to cultivate these habits because we’ve got to get our brains to positive. When our brains are at positive versus negative, neutral, or stressed Mhmm. Employees are 31% more productive, Chrissy. 31%. They are 10 times more engaged in their jobs, and they are 300% more creative, all when we get their brains being the positive. So that’s why, like, schools and businesses now have me come in and train their employees on well-being because it’s directly related to how they show up and do their job. But what do we do, Chrissy? We work we work ourselves to death. We put in the hours until our brain is constantly pinging to stress, and we’re losing productivity. Yes. We’re losing engagement.

Chrissy Beltran [00:28:08]:

That’s right. Thank you so much for all of that. It’s so good. I’m sure there I love that it’s so actionable because there are things that people can walk away with and do for themselves today or tomorrow or with their teachers during a meeting or, you know, even in with individual teachers that you that tell you, I am having a hard time. I mean, some of them just come out and say, like, I am losing it. You know? And you can sit with them and say, why don’t we, you know, why don’t we try this? Why don’t we do this together? And And I would acknowledge the

Kim Strobel [00:28:34]:

pain first because I think we have to be really careful with the positive positivity. So, like, you’re you’re right. Like, you know what? Yeah. Like, this job really can It is hard. Sometimes. It’s hard. And sometimes, like, my chest will start to get all red and blotchy because, like, I’m so worked up about the stress levels I’m dealing with. Mhmm. But, also, here’s a tool I found that really helps me, and maybe we could give it a try together.

Chrissy Beltran [00:28:58]:

Yes. I love that. Thank you so much for all of this. How can people keep learning from you, if they wanna learn more?

Kim Strobel [00:29:04]:

Yep. Yep. So I actually have a podcast. It’s a solo show mostly right now because I don’t have the bandwidth to, interview too many people, but it’s a sheet it’s called She Finds Joy. That’s the podcast. Mhmm. And then my education website is strobeleducation.com. And then, again, you’ll find the free downloadable teach happy book if you just go to the teach happy tab, but I’ll also send you the link.

Chrissy Beltran [00:29:28]:

Perfect. Yes. We will definitely put in the notes. Thank you so much for being here today. This was great and just really helpful to people, so I do appreciate it.

Kim Strobel [00:29:36]:

I’m glad you’re gonna go share it with your friend.

Chrissy Beltran [00:29:37]:

Yes. I am. I’m gonna give her a call today. I am.

Kim Strobel [00:29:40]:

K. Thank you.

Chrissy Beltran [00:29:41]:

Thank Wasn’t that just so good? It just added a little happiness jolt hopefully into your day. It sure did add one into my day. I loved speaKim Strobelg with Kim. She is a breath of fresh air. Next week, we are gonna continue looKim Strobelg at, a new miniseries. We’re gonna start a miniseries about hot topics in coaching. And of course, what is one of the hottest topics in coaching? It is coaching resistant teachers. So we’re gonna look at what the first step to take when coaching resistant teachers is. And until then, happy coaching!

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