Positive Breakthroughs in Coaching You Might Be Missing, ep. 217

This episode is sponsored by Kind Cotton
We’re back with Season 6 of the podcast, and I’m so excited!
At the end of last season, I sent out a survey asking you what you want me to cover on the show. I read everything and got a lot of valuable information from all of you. I’ve been busy planning episodes that will meet the needs you have right now!
We’re going to kick off Season 6 with a new series about loving your work with a good coaching mindset. It’s a topic we’ve talked about before, but this time, we’re going to look at it through the lens of how we can use our coaching mindset to help us love our work, because, let’s face it, sometimes it’s hard to love it.
So in this series, we’re going to think about our work in a different way, with a different type of mindset that will carry us throughout the year. I know you’re going to love these episodes, and I’m thrilled to share them with you.
Positive Breakthroughs in Coaching You Might Be Missing
In today’s episode, we’re talking all about positive breakthroughs in coaching that you might be missing. As instructional coaches, we are expected to get a lot done. It’s a heavy burden! We deal with so much that sometimes we don’t see all the good stuff happening around us. We want big changes fast, but that’s not really how growth happens. We’re not going to get a complete turnaround in a short amount of time.
When I started coaching, I worked at a school that needed to make a lot of changes to grow. While there were things happening every day, I didn’t always see the small changes, because I was so caught up in seeing what still needed to change. I was looking for big things. What I realized over time was that we’re not going to see those big things right away. I needed to look for the slow, steady things that signaled we were heading in the right direction.
Coaching Wins That You Might Overlook
In this episode, we’re looking at things to consider that are actually positive breakthroughs from your coaching work. These are things you might be missing because you’re looking only for the big stuff.
The first positive breakthrough you might be missing is when teachers ask you questions. Even if it sounds like a negative in the moment, it’s giving you the opportunity to see inside their brain and understand what’s keeping them from trying something. If we can partner with them to work through and solve it, then maybe they will try it out.
Another win you might be missing is when teachers show up consistently to meetings. They’re not “forgetting” about them or showing up unprepared. If they’re showing up on time and with the stuff they need to do the work, that’s a win! The first step to getting people to be productive at meetings is getting them to show up!
The next positive breakthrough you might be overlooking is more subtle. I want you to listen to your teachers talk about the work they’re doing as they’re planning, reviewing data, and going through PD. Listen to the words and academic vocabulary they’re using when talking to each other. If they are aligning their vocabulary to talk about teaching and learning, that’s a victory! Communication is one of the biggest challenges when getting teachers to work together. If they are speaking in a common language, celebrate!
The last breakthrough I’m going to share is when teachers are happy to try new things. When teachers are excited to try something out, it means they’re probably going to try it in their classrooms, they might talk about it with a partner, and you can have a follow-up conversation about how it went. If someone is willing to try something out, don’t dismiss it. Instead, use it as your opportunity to turn it into coaching work. Let them know you’re there for them!
Acknowledging Positive Breakthroughs in Coaching
Instructional coaches often get really down on themselves about things that didn’t go well. We need to reframe these “failures” as opportunities to learn and grow. It’s a chance for us to change our brains. We can think about the opportunity we now have to change our response and change the way our coaching works. Ask yourself, what’s the opportunity?
For example, maybe you modeled a lesson and it didn’t go so well. Instead of beating yourself up, reframe it. You showed up and presented the lesson. You did it! Now you can reflect and make the next time better. It’s an opportunity to improve and you cannot make it better unless you try it first.
When a teacher comes and tells you they’re upset with you, it stinks. It’s happened to me and it wasn’t fun. I felt pretty terrible. No one likes to hear that someone is angry with them. But the good thing is, they told you. They are giving you the chance to fix it.
Another opportunity is when teachers ask, “What do you do here?”. This may feel like a negative but you can turn it around and create clarity around your role.
The last one I’ll share is when teachers complain that PLCs are pointless. It can feel harsh to hear this especially if you put a lot of time into your PLCs. But the opportunity you have is to ask for their input on how to make them more effective.
Instead of feeling terrible and beating yourself up, ask yourself: what opportunities do I have to make this better? All of these complaints are an opportunity to bring people in by listening, supporting, clarifying, and making things work better. These are opportunities to reflect and grow. I hope you can take this and use it to reframe your coaching work.
Finding Joy in Your Personal and Professional Life
I recently came across an IG post from Professor Marina Cooley. What she does is interview people about their hobbies, then she goes and learns how to do it. I really love it because it prioritizes and legitimizes having a hobby.
Humans need hobbies. We need to do things we like. We can find value and joy in our work but we need to do things for ourselves. As a busy coach, I know it can be hard to find the time, but find a hobby and prioritize it. If you have something you enjoy in your personal life, you won’t feel like your work life is sucking all the life out of you.
My hobby is cross stitch. It’s something I enjoy but haven’t always made time for. Recently I’ve been doing it more and I really enjoy the time I spend on it. I’m even making myself a gift!
This season, I’m going to be asking all of my guests to tell us their hobbies. I want to introduce coaches to different things they can try. So be sure to join me for that!
And make sure you listen to this episode so you can hear all about positive breakthroughs in coaching that you might be missing. You can listen to this episode using the player below, or wherever you get your podcast. Check it out now.
Topics and Questions Discussed in Episode 217 – Positive Breakthroughs in Coaching You Might Be Missing
- Challenges and obstacles in coaching work
- Positive breakthroughs in coaching you might be missing
- Recognizing and celebrating small wins
- Reframing “failures” as opportunities to learn and grow
- Encouraging teachers to try new things
- Developing a positive coaching mindset
- Finding hobbies that bring you joy
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- Episode 118 – What Do Coaches Do? – Building the Coaching Mindset
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